BE YOU

When you know who you are, you don’t need to justify it to anyone…………………………..
There are always going to be people out there who expect you to explain yourself, defend yourself, or apologize for the light in your eyes. Let me tell you something, from this point forward, you can set yourself free from ever again having to justify your happiness, your dreams, or your confidence to ANYONE. Maybe you know exactly who you are and have your feet firmly planted on your chosen path, or maybe you’re still figuring it out…but whatever the case may be, you have a right to be YOU with no APOLOGIES.
Anyone who has a problem with YOU being YOU doesn’t belong in your life. The people who are meant to walk with you and share your journey will always support you, love you, and accept you RIGHT WHERE YOU’RE AT. They will motivate and encourage you to shoot for the Promised Land but will love you even if you never get there. And the others, Let them go because they a’nt worth the space………..PepeRempe……..Peace

HAVE YOUR CAKE & EAT IT, TOO

So it’s that time of the year again. The holiday that has a way of making those of us without a significant other feel less than significant. The day that we all have wished, at some point or another, would fall right off the calendar and stop reminding us of just how single we actually are.

Valentine’s Day.

Yes, February 14th sneaks upon us every year with its stuffed bears and chocolate hearts and toy monkeys wearing red boxers that sing “Wild Thing” in the drugstore until you want to hunt down the person that just pressed the “Try Me’ button for the 10,000th time and show them the real meaning of a “Wild Thing.” The holiday of love, as it’s commonly referred as, yet there’s nothing about it that makes us feel the slightest bit loving. What’s a girl to do with herself on a holiday that is meant for two? Well, lots of things, actually. And the first thing on your to-do list is to drag yourself out of the blues and get into the Valentine’s Day spirit, because as the quote above says – you don’t have to have a lover by your side to make life a fabulous ride.
Just because you don’t have a significant other on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate the most significant person in your life – YOU! Yes, you. The fearless, fabulous female staring back at you in the mirror. What better excuse than the official “day of love” to treat yourself to a little pampering, a great movie, or a good old-fashioned Girls Night Out? After all, if YOU can’t love you, how can you expect anyone else to?
Today: Don’t forget to take a moment to celebrate yourself, your life, all the people you love, and all the people who love you. Remember – as romantic as that line might have been, you don’t need anyone to “complete you.” You are already complete! You be the cake and let a relationship be the icing. Because after all…there’s no better day than Valentine’s Day to have your cake and eat it, too……………PepeRempe………Peace

SOMETIMES IT TAKES LOOKING BACK TO SEE HOW FAR YOU’VE COME

“I always knew looking back on the tears would make me laugh, but I never knew looking back on the laughs would make me cry.”Mother”

To all of my beautiful, intelligent, accomplished readers who are graduating from one phase of their lives to another; whether it be in school, work, love, or simply life, here’s what Life 101 has taught me:
You probably won’t get the big jobs and make the big money – at least not right away. You might have to start off at menial jobs that force you to dress as a wizard and stand on the side of the road holding a sign that says “Magical Move-In Specials” (or at least, that’s how some of us started out.) You will probably get stepped on in the career world, somewhere along the way. Someone you thought was your friend will prove to be less than loyal. You will get hurt, get fired, be shortpaid, and overworked. The good news is you’ll meet people along the way and have experiences, that will make you come to life in ways you never thought possible. Every time you get knocked down, you’ll grow stronger. And every time you refuse to get knocked down, you’ll be introduced to a new side of yourself that you never knew existed. And either way it goes you’ll have friends there to either pick you up off the floor, or stand and clap and watch you soar.
Things that once broke your heart will make you smile. Things that once upon a time, you thought would kill you, will heal you. Moments that seemed at the time like they were the most painful you would ever go through will stand as landmarks now, for the moment your entire life changed. You will be able to look upon those times that you thought you’d never laugh again, and be silently thankful for whoever or whatever it was that walked away, because without losing them, you would have never found yourself or your partner. You will, years from now, sit at a restaurant with your best friend and giggle for hours on end at the bad jobs, the even worse relationships, and the unanswered prayers that remained unanswered so you could answer the call of your true destiny. And you won’t regret a single thing…because every last bit of it made you who you are today.
You most likely won’t remember everything you learned in school – at least not book-wise. You WILL, however, remember the moments that mattered the most: Your first kiss. Your first love. Your first big heartbreak. The friends that were lost, either to death or circumstance or distance. The moments of sheer joy and beauty with your friends that would never quite be repeated once the veil of innocence was removed from your eyes. The boys you pined for in high school now 40 pounds or looking tattered. You’ll wonder what you ever saw in them, and you’ll silently thank God they didn’t see the same thing in you. You’ll especially remember the moment you walked across the stage and accepted your certificate because it will be not just the moment that your education ended, but also your childhood.
You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.
Value the friends that have been there all along, because when the others disappear and leave you heartbroken, those people that have been there all along will be the ones to pick up your pieces.
Because In the end, you always go back to the people that were there in the beginning.
YEP….Sometimes it takes looking back to see how far you’ve come……………..pepeRempe……..peace