SAY IT BOLDLY……………..

“Write your story as it needs to be written. Write it honestly and tell it as best you can. I’m not sure that there are any other rules. Not ones that matter.”
“Don’t forget – no one else sees the world the way you do, so no one else can tell the stories that you have to tell.” As at last week I was reading Linda ikeji’s story on her blog she wrote it to her best and her ability, some ppl are gonna be REAL offended by your success & expect you to apologise for it. Don’t>>>>>>>>Favour Ain’t Fair
So I’ve received a couple of negative comment on my blog over the past few days, and I know it’s to be expected…I mean, not everyone is going to love and adore my stories as much as I do… And first I have to say a heartfelt THANK YOU to everyone who has taken there time to read my blog and leave a comment, positive or negative, and while the positive comment  FAR outweigh the negative ones, I still want to touch on the common issue that the detractors seem have with my blog. A few readers feel like I don’t go “deep” enough or that I haven’t had enough life experience to speak about some of the BIG issues like love and loss. Essentially, I’m a tad too “fluffy” for some people. And the truth is, by the grace of God, I haven’t experienced any MAJOR loss in my life to this point of anyone extremely close to me. So to that end, other than suffering a few heart-wrenching break-ups, I can’t really speak as an expert on loss and grief. I HAVE experienced some very traumatic events, which left me stronger, wiser, and ready and willing to share the lessons I’ve learned so others can perhaps avoid some of the heartache I have endured as a result of both bad circumstances and my own bad decisions and am still learning. But the point I want to make here is this: My message may not always be intense and deep and earth-shattering, but it is REAL. And that’s enough for me. That’s the kind of story I am here to tell at this juncture in my life…something real and true and authentic about the life of a young lady, a life that looks very little like what we see mirrored on television and in books. As I’ve said before, I’m not a guru, I’m not a therapist, I’m not an expert. And I’m NOT JOKE SILVER, as much as I love and adore her. I have loved and I have lost. I have laughed and I have cried. I have been single and I have been in relationships. And I have known the heights of happiness and the depths of sorrow. I am one of you. Not better than, or more evolved than, or more intelligent than. This IS the journey of a young Woman – and it might not be a Shakespearean sonnet – but it is as honest as it gets. This is my story, and I tell it proudly, and along the way, if I give a few women out there the courage to tell their own story a little more boldly, I have accomplished what I set out to do…………..pepeRempe…….peace

BE DIFFERENT

 

“She’s a real firecracker, you know? She’s not someone you forget meeting.”

Someone recently referred to me as a “firecracker,” and it was one of the most flattering compliments I think I’ve ever received. I suppose it could go both ways. There might be some people who would look at being called that as a negative thing…overwhelming, perhaps. Intimidating. Too flashy. Too much to handle. I, on the other hand, LOVE the comparison. Life is far too short to be boring, mundane, or prim and proper! Here in North in particular, it seems there is a bit of an unspoken rule that women should be polite…passive …docile…meek…but in the thesaurus of life, give me “firecracker” over any of those adjectives any day! There is a quote by Coco Chanel that says: “In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.” Today: Dare to be different. Dare to stand out. Dare to turn right when everyone else goes left. Dare to be a force of nature. Though the argument might stand that a firecracker eventually burns out…I think it’s better to have just one streak across the sky like the 1st  of October than a lifetime of playing it safe in the box. Because when it’s all said and done, there is nothing more delightfully dangerous than a woman who has tapped into her own power………..pepeRempe……..peace

SET YOURSELF FREE, I THINK YOU HOLD THE KEY

No person can make me live with a negative attitude. No circumstance, no adversity can force me to live in despair.

Maybe today you’re living with regret. Or anger. Or unforgiveness, Or bitterness, Or unhappiness, Or fear, Or blame. Whether it’s directed at either yourself or someone else it doesn’t matter. Negative mind sets and toxic emotions will leave you locked in a prison of your own making and all the while, YOU hold the key. The time is right to free yourself from the chains of unresolved issues and unforgiven grievances. Continuously clinging to past hurts and wounds and mistakes and expecting your life to be positive and happy is like trying to plant a garden in a garbage can. It just ain’t happening! You can’t talk and think trash and expect everything to come up roses. I only feel pity for those who build CAREERS on a foundation based on putting others down. The void in their lives must be plagued with insecurity?Whether its a song, book, blog….if all u do is stir up beef, hate, hurt, shame and put others down…how will God lift you up?Isn’t it time to trade the WEEDS from the past for the SEEDS of the FUTURE?…………pepeRempe……….peace

AN OPEN LETTER TO THE CHURLISH OLD GURLS

You, with your switching sides and your wildfire lies and your humiliation. I walk with my head down trying to block you out, cause am not out to impress you. I just wanna feel okay. I’ll bet you got pushed around…somebody made you cold. But the cycle ends right now, cause you can’t lead me down that road. Someday I’ll be living’ in a big old city happily ever after…and all you’re ever gonna be is mean and vicious .

Dear Mean Girls of the World,

It seems that lately, you have been everywhere I look. Either you are increasing in ranks or my eyes are been opened to the fact that regardless of how positive a person is, there’s always going to be someone negative to come along and try to knock you down into the dirt with them. As women, we get a bad rap sometimes for been catty, petty, jealous, and just plain mean. We fight against this stereotype, and some of us even work to defeat this stereotype all together, yet you, mean girls, perfectly illustrate this stereotype and breath bad breath into someone’s life or relationship. Why must you always be on the attack? Is it because once upon a time, someone hurt you so deeply, or you think another is the cause of your problems, that now you feel the need to strike out at others to make yourself feel better? Is it a cry for help? For attention? For validation? Or are you really just PARANOID?
Whatever the case girls, I would urge you to step back and pause for a minute before unleashing your next stream of cruelty on women who, for the most part, you dont know very little about. I would ask you to take a good long look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are really in a position to be judging anyone else, fighting or trying to destroy someone else’s image (and the answer to that, unless you are Jesus and have achieved perfection, is always going to be NO). I would ask you to remember that we are all a lot more alike than you might think. We are all trying to get that very relationship and to cover up that embarrassing blemish and  smile from the right angle, So……..that crooked teeth doesn’t show  to wear your most flattering pair of jeans that makes your butt look bigger When i know is tiny……(Lmao) which might just be from Primark instead of TOPSHOP. But the price tag on your outfit says nothing about the price tag on my WORTH. It doesn’t make you a saint while you rubbish others. It doesn’t make you skinnier to talk about how fat someone else is. It doesn’t make you prettier to talk about how ugly someone else is. (Actually, it makes you look pretty ugly yourself). And it doesn’t make you fit in, to laugh at someone else for standing out. Yes, it might make you fit in better with other shameless girls of your type, but is that really the company you want to keep? Pls act your AGE

Try on compassion, and grace, and kindness for size today. They truly are one-size-fits-all qualities that flatter ANY shape. Give your fellow women a break today…or better yet, a boost. I realize that we are ALL fighting the same battle so dont be too paranoid, try and cover up your shameful attitude, because if you keep going on like this you just keep been  the great LOSER that you ARE………………pepeRempe………..peace

DON’T FIT THE MOLD – BREAK IT

Be yourself. If you water yourself down to please people or to fit in or to not offend anyone, you lose the power, the passion, the freedom and the joy of being uniquely you. It’s much easier to love yourself when you are being yourself.
Here’s a little secret that’s going to save you a LOT of unnecessary grief in life. Are you ready?

YOUR WORTH IS NOT TIED TO ANY PERSON.

You are NOT a flag, and the people in your life are NOT the flagpole. When you treat them as such, you are left flapping in the breeze of uncertainty every time someone dismisses you, hurts you, misunderstands you, betrays you, or leaves you.
Life will be a miserable experience if you spend it putting out fires of disapproval rather than letting your light shine without fear. I’m learning on this journey that not everyone is meant to travel beside us. Some would slow us. Others would deter us. And some are GIANT roadblocks that would block us from the destiny that God has for us. So TRUST that if they strayed from your path – they DO NOT belong there. Not just everybody can go where you’re going.
well the bottom line is………..The ones who are meant to get you, will GET you. The ones who aren’t will be mystified by you. And that’s okay. It’s not your place to try and please anyone or win anyone’s approval. Because after all: You’re not here to fit nicely inside their mold but you’re here to break it……….pepeRempe……….peace

WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?

Our lives as a whole is revolved around relationship, we crave for someone to talk, laugh, play, and work with. In essence, we need people, as they say no man is an island. Though, there are millions of people in the world, but there are certain people we hold very dearly to our hearts, we spend most of our time with them, share our fears, dreams and hopes with them—-OUR CLOSE FRIENDS.
There is no denying the fact that your close friends have a great impact in your life, they influence what you do and believe. When you spend a greater part of your life with a person, you tend to act,talk,think like the Person . As they say ‘ show me your friends, and I’ll show you who you are or who you soon shall be.
Your friends can either take you closer to your destiny or far from it. Most people you sometimes refer to as friends are nothing but PARASITES and VULTURES in your life. They add nothing  to your life, they are of no positive influence or benefit in your life…….infact, life was better for you before they showed  up in your life from them. They hardly correct you when you are doing wrong. They praise you in your presence, but at your back, they say terrible stuff about you. But on the other hand some people are what they call BLESSING  in a person’s life . These set of friends give more than they take from you, they enrich your life and push  you up when you can’t go on by yourself, they will be generous with praise at your success and eager with encouragement at your struggles. They will not patronise you to make you feel good all the time, but they will tell you the truth and sometimes scold you real hard and help you get better for a lifetime . When I watch movies like Harry potter or legend of the seeker and the rest, the heroes in these movies are nothing without the help of there close pals. These friends propelled them to greatness . Their friends nurtured, helped, took them to their respective destines. Most great people are ordinary people with extraordinary friends.
Sometimes, you have to leave behind people that have no positive influence in your life, people that are not willing to climb the mountain with you, people that don’t share your goals, visions with you, people that you have nothing in common with. The truth is that there are some people you just have to love from a distance. It’s great to welcome people into your lives, but don’t set the bar or standard so low to people who will do more harm than good to your destiny. Great relationships are hard to come by, but are very rewarding. I guess you should be willing to ask yourself “my close friends are they parasites or blessings?
Choose your friends and don’t let them choose you!!!!!!! PepeRempe….peace