MY AFFAIR WITH PASTOR BIODUN FATOYINBO OF COZA.

Reader’s Corner – Paint The Sky

Reader's Corner – Paint The Sky.

Don’t Get Married If….

Don’t Get Married If…..

THE TRUTH BEHIND SOCIAL MEDIA SHADINESS

Love isn’t complicated – people are.

Social media shadiness. Facebook shadiness. Twitter shadiness. Texting/BBM/IM’ing shadiness. We’ve all been a victim of it at one point or another. A guy you’re dating doesn’t approve your friend request. Still another never responds to you in public on Twitter – only through DM’s. And another always manages to “accidentally” un-tag himself in the cute, couple- photos you post of the two of you together.

I once know a guy who would Blackberry message me INCESSANTLY for days at a time…then delete me from his contacts all together. I’d wake up in the morning, expecting to see a cute message or a smiley face from him, and instead he’d vanished without a trace from my list of contacts. I put up with this three times before I called him on his BS excuse of “I was trying to update my BBM and I accidentally deleted you.” Really?!? Once might be believable, twice FEASIBLE…but three times in a row? I, of course, later found out that he had a girlfriend the entire time and had to delete me from his list of BBM contacts every time she came around so she wouldn’t catch him creeping around behind her back. Incidentally enough, that same guy now has a new girlfriend…at least in theory. In reality, he hides his Facebook relationship status so he can still squeeze on other girls behind his “girlfriend’s” back.

Here’s what I’m here to tell you, friends: If the person you’re “in a relationship” with doesn’t publicly claim you…chances are, you’re not in a relationship. Am I saying that love is DEFINED by Social Media? Absolutely not. But is love defined by Facebook shadiness? Absolutely! If someone really WANTS to be with you…they’ll be shouting it from the rooftops…not sweeping you under the rug. If they refuse to friend you on Facebook, block you from seeing their Twitter page, always un-tag photos of the two of you together,or don’t put up your picture once in while on their bb, delete you from their BBM contact list every other day, hide their relationship status, or display general shadiness in any of the above areas…they are not on the up-and-up. Bottom line: Social media shadiness is indicative of real-life shadiness. And your light is TOO bright to put up with someone who casts shade on you! After all, if they’re not proud to be with you…maybe they shouldn’t be with you. It might be time to unfriend, block, and move on……PepeRémpe…….peace

LIVE THE BEST YOU CAN LIVE OUT OF REVENGE

The best revenge is a vow to never be like the one who hurt you.
The thing I’m learning in my life, time and time and time again, is that when someone hurts you, there is absolutely no need to turn vindictive and angry and start plotting your revenge. Nope, no need at all. Why? Because, as I have discovered, time is its’ own vindicator …and all things in life come full circle. That means if someone mercilessly and purposely caused you pain somewhere along the way, it’s only a matter of time before everything they did in the shadows of darkness comes to light. Time really, truly is the best equalizer, and the truth always comes out in the wash. Someone can try their best to hide what they’ve done or lie about what they’ve done or deny what they’ve done…but their true colors will eventually come blazing through. How do I know this? Because I’ve seen it too many times in my own life for it not to be true. For example, two years ago, someone I considered a good friend, even becoming a best friend…hurt and betrayed me very deeply, and for seemingly no reason…then proceeded to go about life as though nothing had happened. This person was GREAT at feigning kindness and perfection and sincerity to everyone around her, so it really made me start to question myself. Did I bring her hurtful actions upon myself? Was I a bad friend? A bad person? Did I do something to deserve what happened to me? It has been one of those unanswered questions and run-on sentences in my life for more than two years now.

Along the line, I learned some things that absolutely confirmed, 100%, that the person who hurt me has a long track record of hurting people around her, betraying people around her, destroying people around her, almost as though she does it for sport. And though it pains me to think of all the people who have fallen victim to this person, it also set me free of any residual chains of responsibility I felt for the way things went down between us two years ago. In one fell swoop, I saw this person clearly, almost as though for the first time, and I realized that the blame was not with me, that I did NOT invite her betrayal, and that I could finally close that painful chapter and not look back. That’s one of the really great things about life: A liar can only outrun their lies for so long. Eventually, the sheep’s clothing will fall off and reveal the wolf underneath. I say all this today to encourage you to let go of any need for revenge or vindication that might be haunting you as a result of another’s betrayal. Your inner light and positives are all the antidotes you need to counteract the lies and negativity of a toxic person. The best revenge is to live the best live you can live, being as YOU as you can be…knowing that someday, some way, the truth will set you free…….PepeRémpe……..peace

IF YOU ARE NOT INCREASING THEN THEY ARE DECREASING YOU……

The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some people will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. People that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl. People will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this: Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere.
With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.

The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate – for the good and the bad.” ~Colin Powell

This is a LONG quote, but it’s fantastically amazing, I had to share it with you guys anyway. Every bit of it is so true! I have had situations in my own life where I have encountered less-than-genuine or less-than-loyal people who have turned their backs on me, and though their rejection hurt at the time, I have ALWAYS looked back and breathed a sigh of relief that they chose to exit my life. The bottom line is: When you have a REALLY BIG destiny and refuse to settle for a mediocre existence, you’re not always going to fit in with the crowd. Why? Because you’re not meant to. You’re meant to FLY, not to just simply GET BY! So the moral of the story is this: Be grateful when the natural selection of life weeds people out of the garden of your life, because chances are, they were choking your growth and needed to go. Then celebrate all the new room you have to bloom……PepeRémpe…….peace

ITS OKAY TO JUST BE…………

The day I understood everything, was the day I stopped trying to figure everything out and the day I knew peace was the day I let everything go and am still letting GO

My favorite moments were when i let go of all my expectations and worries and just simply celebrate the very moment i was living
Sometimes beautiful things come into our lives out of nowhere. We can’t always understand them, but we have to trust in them. I know you want to question everything,i also wanna question everything but sometimes it pays to just have a little faith.
Some days are for studying, trying, going, striving, knowing, doing, seeking…
And some days are simply for BEING.
BUT Today: I urge you to just BE. Be still, be quiet, be content with where you are without trying to see where you’re going. There is so much beauty and magic and light and laughter in THIS VERY MOMENT. Goals are good…and focusing on where you wanna be is great…but today, for just one day, pause to reflect on the wondrous magnificence of how far you’ve already come.

Breathe…smile…jump…play…giggle…hope…wish…pray…BE……….PepeRémpe………peace

Because Sometimes Just BEING Is Enough.

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