“Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You are deeply missable. However, his still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”
I got a message from one of my very good friend, OLIVIA, who is struggling with a broken heart after her “wonderful” boyfriend broke up with her via text message, telling her she’s “amazing, beautiful, and a keeper” and that they will be together…just not NOW.
olivia……my sweet, wonderful, worthy friend here’s some news that might shock you.
This boyfriend? He’s not so “wonderful.”
A wonderful guy doesn’t break up with his girlfriend via text message. A wonderful guy doesn’t attempt to string you along by telling you you’ll be together “someday.” And a wonderful guy doesn’t do all these things and then stop calling you all together, with zero concern about your feelings.
A wonderful guy mans up, sits you down face-to-face, and tells you why he can’t be with you anymore. A wonderful guy lets you go, so you can move on instead of hang on. And a wonderful guy cares enough about you and the time the two of you spent together to make sure you have a clear understanding of where your relationship (or lack thereof) stands before disappearing off the face of the earth.
Ladies: Here’s something we tend to get twisted. You will never have to play with a TRULY wonderful man to figure out whether he wants to be with you. It will be spelled out for you in no uncertain terms with his actions. Why? Because a man, a real man, a wonderful man, will be too busy protecting your heart to play with it.
Move on, dear olivia. This man is not worthy of one more minute, one more tear, one more ounce of your energy…or, in my opinion, even one more text message………..pepeRempe……..peace